The Monthly Visitor. Aunty Flo. Code Red. Girl Flu. These bewildering turns of phrase are just four of the 5000 different euphemisms used across the globe in lieu of the word “period”. While this habit may surprise you, it’s merely the tip of the iceberg of efforts taken by society to dismiss and conceal the perfectly natural phenomenon of menstruation. In the Asembo community in Kenya, menstruating girls are considered unclean and forbidden from sleeping in their mothers’ homes. In India, 71% of adolescent girls are unaware of menstruation altogether until they experience it themselves. And as soon as they do, they are likely to be “excluded from social events, denied entry into temples and shrines and even kept out of kitchens,” according to a BBC News report. Even in a first-world country like the USA, a 2018 poll found that 42% of women had experienced period shaming, one in five by their own male friends.
But why are periods considered so shameful? After all, aren’t they a regular biological function undergone by almost an entire half of the world’s population? Perhaps the answer lies within that question itself; this half of the population, the female half, is the same one that has been excluded, disregarded and denied since time immemorial. If it were men who menstruated rather than women, wrote Gloria Steinem, “menstruation would become an enviable, worthy, masculine event: Men would brag about how long and how much.” Perhaps period shaming is just another way our patriarchal civilisation maintains control over females, preserving their place below males by condemning them for a process integral to their bodies.
And if you think the ramifications of this hackneyed idea extend only as far as the theoretical social status of women, think again! Period stigma manifests as a plethora of tangible problems. High taxation on products like pads and tampons (while less essential male purchases like erectile dysfunction pills often remain untaxed) hinders women in nations around the world from maintaining basic menstrual hygiene. The poorer they are, the more likely these taxes are to result in period poverty, an absolute lack of menstrual hygiene. The absence of menstrual products and education further impacts women financially by forcing them to stop attending schools or workplaces during menstruation.
As for their health, they are left vulnerable to health risks like reproductive and urinary tract infections. In rural areas, their seclusion from public areas can impede access to food and water, endangering their lives. Period shame takes a toll on women’s mental health, too, causing distress and depression. In Kenya and India, this degradation has driven girls as far as suicide.
In this era of feminism and social reformation, the time is ripe to end period shame. The first step, as in all widespread change, is education. Schools must begin to teach their students, girls and boys, about menstruation, presenting it as the natural bodily function it is and thereby normalising it. Schools, colleges and workplaces must also make sanitary supplies readily available to their female members. And as individuals, you and I can bring about similar change in simple, everyday ways. Let’s discard hushed whispers of “on the rag” in favour of confident, candid conversation about menstruation. Let’s replace artificial, obliging laughter at PMS jokes with open disagreement. Let’s stop shaming periods and start shaming period shame.
Well written. I think that I slightly disagree on period shaming happening at least in India nowadays. Yes it may still exist in remote towns and villages.and yes we have definitely had enough of those silly PMS jokes from men without understanding what a woman goes through during this period
ReplyDeleteBrave topic to choose, Netra. And I love the last line - definitely the time to shame 'period shaming '. A part of the onus on banishing the stigma also lies on us women. Firstly, we stop using parallel phrases to name our period. We have to be comfortable to say 'we are on on period ' if the need arises, even if it doesn't protect the gentle feelings of the men around us!
ReplyDeleteThanks to Crumble experiencing her period last year, Neel and Kabir are well aware of this very natural phenomenon happening to the females of every species. I made it a point to be very frank with them about how and why it happens. And they asked me if I experience the same. So much so that they can now sympathise with the discomfort I go through because they saw Crumble in pain and distress before we got her spayed. And bonus - now they can say 'period' without any stigma attached to it. Change also begins with us and our reaction around the subject, along with the other valid points you have made in your article. I was waiting to read your blog and it was totally worth the wait 🤗
Good job Netra 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
ReplyDeleteThis was a very brave topic, I liked this blog. Keep the good work up
ReplyDeleteYou are very versatile Netra. You obviously are a very talented writer. Keep going!
ReplyDeleteVery well written Netra !! Your articles always leave one with food for thought.
ReplyDeleteYou have picked up a topic on which there is so much spoken,written,debated however the more as a gal I read,I connect with.The closing line is very very powerful and you have left a reader with a thought.
ReplyDeleteYou have written the article so well. I really appreciate that you have brought this topic as an article and the fact you said we have to stop shaming and start shaming period shame is true. The society and people in the world have to change and help girls when their on periods. Every parent in the world has to teach their children about period and let them know so that they can help girls. Girls shouldn’t be shamed to tell that their on periods. Also please stop telling girls that they are impure when they are on their periods. That makes them feel more bad and think that periods are shameful to tell anyone. Netra you have made good decision taking this as a topic for your article. I really liked the blog. Hope the people change in the society.
ReplyDeleteExcellent article, Netra. There's absolutely a need to normalize 'periods'. I love that you've picked this up as your blog, which is an important step in creating awareness, conversations & actions.
ReplyDeleteAs pointed out, the government can play a big role in increasing access by making it a 0 tax category.
Keep writing & provoking!
Well written Netra! The ending just summed it all up! Keep up the good work!
ReplyDeleteSuch a sensitive topic written with so much insight. Most of us are aware that we need to make a change, and don't know where to start, but don't realise that any effort, big or small, is an effort. Talking to our own children is one way. But educating and talking to our maids and help at home and their children is a larger reach and a big help, as their strata is a larger community and one which can't even discuss this openly. The more we talk about it, and not in hushed tones, but rather openly, definitely will help reducing if not eradicating it from our societies.
ReplyDeleteLove,from your big supporter,
Shobha aunty
Netra you have discussed beautifully a very important topic not just from social point of view but also from the medical sciences part of view.
ReplyDeleteI as a doctor must confess despite knowing the science have in the initial years of my life have been very dismissive about the subject and never discussed with my female relatives are friends
So I must apologise for my own failure in dealing with this issue.
We need more Netras to talk about this.
Yes more men and boys need to talk and discuss this in a scientific and humane way.
More power to you dear Netra
Hi Netra - very sensitive topic, good that you spoke up about this. Awareness still is very low among males - and good that people like you talking about this. Sunainika shared this video link below - part of a campaign done by P&G - https://youtu.be/M119FchDv2s - thought the video would be of interest to you
ReplyDeleteWell done again
Very well written Netra...things are changing slowly but only in the cities I'm guessing.
ReplyDeleteLiked the flow of the article! That said i think the issue has become more mainstreamed than ever before so much so that taxation atleast in India is now zero...sensibilities are definitely changing even amongst the lower socio - economic strata.
ReplyDeleteNetra, good one. Not just men, how many mothers in India would send their daughters to temples during their periods. There is improvement. But there is a long way to go. More and more media based drive is needed....the movie Padman is one of them. Why not make it mandatory for all TV channels to educate people? This is really something that needs to be addressed.
ReplyDeleteVery well-written, Netra. I will share this with my friends if you don’t mind.
ReplyDeleteLove the topic Netra we need more bold writing in the world like this. Keep it up!
ReplyDeleteThank you for bringing this up. This is a topic that acts like a taboo in many households surprisingly and I think you,adressing this issue,would help more than you think. Just today on my quora page, a girl was sharing her experience on this topic being brought up in front of her dad. She was called ‘disgusting’ by her own dad and it’s honestly so disheartening. Again, im not saying everyone is like this because I think in some ways,people are changing for the bettter. Thanks again for discussing this topic.
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